To strengthen self-esteem and avoid resentment, one must stop prioritizing the approval of others at the expense of one's own values, and learn to tolerate disagreement from others through small daily choices.

noli's read

This advice draws on concepts from cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and humanistic psychology regarding assertiveness. Social psychology research effectively validates that repeated self-censorship to conform (people pleasing) is correlated with a decrease in psychological well-being and an increase in stress (observational studies on assertiveness, e.g., Alberti & Emmons). The idea that behaviors shape identity (Daryl Bem’s self-perception theory) supports the notion that repetitive choices change our view of ourselves. It is not an exaggeration to say that change is gradual, as behavioral neuroplasticity requires repetition to modify reflexive patterns. Conversely, the direct link between 'small choices' and overall self-esteem is a proven clinical model, although the impact may vary from one individual to another depending on their lived experience. This discourse is firmly anchored in current therapeutic practices for managing social anxiety.

the sources

No named source held this one up — that absence is part of the verdict.