The need to please (people-pleasing) is a mistake that, under the guise of being a 'good' person, causes you to lose control of your actions in favor of a fear of disagreement, generating internal distress and a lack of integrity.

noli's read

The concept of 'people-pleasing' in psychology is often associated with a personality profile marked by a high sensitivity to rejection and a need for social approval. Scientific literature, particularly through observational studies on assertiveness, confirms that the constant suppression of one's own needs in favor of others is correlated with an increase in psychological stress and emotional exhaustion. The link established by Dr. Smith between a lack of assertiveness and the feeling of loss of control is supported by self-determination theory (Deci & Ryan, meta-analyses), which posits that autonomy is a fundamental need for well-being. What is presented here as a 'mistake' is described by research as an adaptive protection strategy that has become maladaptive in the long term. The analysis is therefore scientifically coherent, although the notion of 'integrity' pertains more to a philosophical interpretation than to a standardized clinical measure. There is no major exaggeration here; the statement accurately reflects the classic dynamics encountered in cognitive behavioral therapy.

the sources

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