The act of seeking to please at any cost ("people-pleasing") by silencing one's own convictions and saying yes to everything out of a need for approval severely harms inner well-being, generating resentment and a loss of control over one's own life.

noli's read

This warning against excessive compliance resonates strongly with research in behavioral and relational psychology. The work of researcher Vicki Helgeson on what she calls "unmitigated communion" demonstrates, via several observational and longitudinal studies, that focusing solely on the needs of others to the detriment of oneself profoundly impairs life satisfaction. Furthermore, numerous observational studies stemming from work on sociotropy by psychologists such as Aaron Beck confirm that constantly seeking external approval to avoid rejection leads to an accumulation of relational stress and a decrease in self-esteem. Science thus largely supports the idea that suppressing one's fundamental values to maintain a facade of harmony generates a loss of control and emotional exhaustion. Although the creator's phrasing that one feels "destroyed from within" is a figurative expression typical of personal development, it faithfully illustrates the bitterness and psychological fatigue documented by researchers.

the sources

No named source held this one up — that absence is part of the verdict.